Live in the Present

Have you ever felt like you missed out on something in life? Or felt like you haven’t experienced all that life has to offer.  Better yet, you felt like life has passed you by and that you haven’t done all you set out to do.

We all have dreams and passions that we have desired to accomplish, but somewhere along the way, those dreams and passions have yet come to pass. So now you dwell upon the things you cannot change and miss the very moment you are in.

As a result, we find ourselves missing out on life because we are so focused on what woulda, what coulda and what shoulda been. So what should you do? Live in the present. If we continue to dwell upon the things we cannot change, we will miss the moment now.

God still has a plan for your life. That plan may not have been what you desired, but God still has a set course for your life and God will see to it that it is accomplished. Therefore you must live in the present.   Don’t let the past keep you from living today.

Every moment in life is precious. Instead of living in the past, it is time to live in the present. The moment you live in the present, you will be able to experience and enjoy what God has for you.  Enjoy the now, then experience the life you are supposed to have.

Numbers 23:19

God is not a man, that he should lie, neither the son of man, that he should repent: hath he said, and shall he not do it? or hath he spoken, and shall he not

make it good?


Focus on the present and live in the now.


Monique Ray

Christian Life Coach


Empowered by God

Life happens, and because life happens we have good days and we have bad days.  We have so so days and we have days that we wish never happened.  We may even sit down and try to figure out what we did wrong. Or we may even try to understand it.  But when the day is gone, its gone. We can’t change, we can’t rewind it, but what we can do is learn from it. God has empowered you to  move forward.

To empower means to give (someone) the authority or power to do something (by God)or enable (someone) to do (something) make (someone) stronger and more confident, esp. in controlling their life and claiming their rights.

So when I become empowered, I have been given the power or authority to do something.  I have become stronger and more confident in my life.  I know who I am and I know whose I am. I know that I have a right to walk the places I am walking.  I have a right to do the things I am doing, all because I have been empowered by God!

Every day is a new day to begin again. Remember your life begins today…..

This week’s task


on what is means to be empowered.


Write down the things that God has empowered you to do.


Do what God has empowered you to do.


Christian life Coach

Monique Ray

Moving Forward

Have you ever had to move? Was it hard? Did everything go as planned? Moving can be hard. Needless to say when the times come we have to pack up all our things, and make sure everything is in its place and that every box is packed just right. The only problem is we dread it, agonize over it and ultimately would rather not do it.  You probably thought it would have been easier just to stay where you were.

Moving requires that you get up and take action. The end result is a new destination.  But when the time comes for you to finally move to that destination you don’t want to do it and make excuses as to why you can’t do it. Why? We become fearful, scared and insecure. Many times it’s because we think we may fail or don’t believe in ourselves.  The truth is, you are in your own way. When you realize that you are in the way, all you need to do is get you, out of the way and move forward. God has purposely placed in your life a destination that you must obtain.  But to get there you have to allow him to take you there.

Moving forward in life can be hard. Especially if the move is going to require that you get up and do something. That move may also be too difficult and you don’t want to bear with what the move will do to you mentally and physically.

When you walk, your steps will not be hindered

Proverbs 4:12

Take a moment and identify with your situation and truly visualize where moving can take you. If you can see it, you can obtain it.  Take the following plan below and move forward to your destiny.


List reasons why you don’t want to move forward.

List reasons why moving forward would benefit you.

Write down how this affects you.


1.  From your list create your action plan to move forward.

Step 1

Step 2

Step 3

Step 4

Step 5

2.  Find support to help you move through this plan (family member, friend, co-worker)

3.  Finally-Move Forward

With best wishes,

Monique Ray

Christian Life Coach

What are you overlooking?

Life can be really hectic at times. So hectic, that we find ourselves rushing.   In that rush we tend to overlook things that are right in front of us. That something may be your keys, wallet, purse or even paperwork.  Regardless of what we are looking for, no matter how hard we look we can’t seem to find it.  Needless to say after all that looking, what you were looking for was either right where you left it or you simply overlooked it.

I can honestly say that there have been times when I was looking for something and couldn’t find it.  But when I didn’t need it, it is right there in front of me. Take a moment and think of what it is you are looking for.  Are you trying to find your purpose and destiny? Are you trying to find your ideal mate? Are you looking for another job or career?

Whatever the case may be, what you are looking for may be right in front of you. Why? You are overlooking what’s there.  We search and search the world only to find that what we need is right there in front of you. We don’t want to accept the fact that our needs are right in front of our faces. Are you overlooking your friends? Are you overlooking family?  Stop overlooking and look at the place you are in right now. It may be the place God wants you to be. It may be the place God wants to bless you. (Right where you are). Your mate may be standing right in front of you. Your destiny may be right in front of you. Your purpose may be right in front of you……..

And behold, the Lord passed by, and a great and strong wind tore into the mountains and broke the rocks in pieces before the Lord, but the Lord was not in the wind, and after the wind an earthquake, but the Lord was not in the earthquake, and after the earthquake a fire, but the Lord was not in the fire, and after the fire a still small voice. I Kings 19:11-12

Start today and look where you are right now.  Thank God for what you have and ask him to show you what you are overlooking.

Remember every day is a new day to begin again. Your life begins today…………..


Think of the things you are trying to pursue…..dreams, purpose, destiny, career…..


Examine your place right now. What are you overlooking?


How can you make sure you don’t overlook what’s in front of you?  What will be your action plan?


Monique Ray

Christian Life Coach


What have your heard lately?

Have you ever noticed what others say around you? Have you ever thought about what others have said? Did it affect you? Did you alter your way of thinking because of what you heard them say? Or did something they said change your point of view?

Our world is full of hearsay and often we go by what we hear.  Even in the news we depend on the reporters to inform us of what is going on in the world. But what happens when there is error in what someone has said. You now have rooted in you something you heard but have no way of changing the thought because the error you heard was not corrected.

How often is error corrected on the news? How do you know for sure that what you are hearing is truth? There is one book that is error proof and that is the bible.

The things that you hear often will take root in your spirit, regardless of whether you meant for it to or not.  That is why it is necessary to take what you hear and confirm it. Don’t just take what you hear at face value. Proverbs 1: 5 states: a wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels.

Always confirm what you hear. This way mistakes and errors will be few and far between. What you hear can hinder you. Therefore be careful about what you allow to reach your spirit. Start today and be careful about the things that you hear.

Every day is a new day to begin again. Your life begins today…………………..

This week’s task


Think about the many things you have heard and how it has affected your way of thinking.


What are the errors in your thoughts and your ways of thinking?

Is your way of thinking hindering you?

Has what you been hearing hindering you?


What can you do to control what you hearing?

What can you do to make that happen?


Monique Ray

Christian Life Coach


Strength for the struggle

Strength is what we need when difficult situations or events arise that may be distressing.  But where does our strength come from?  How do we rejuvenate ourselves when it feels like the fire is gone? The answer is simple. Look up!

Life can bring about struggles.   It’s in those times that you need strength for the struggle. You need something or someone to hang on to in order to get through those hard times. Struggles can also be more than we want to bear but God who is rich in his mercies gives us strength for the struggle.

You may be struggling in your finances, life, home or even in your relationships. Regardless of the struggle, God will give you strength for your struggle. He will give you just what you need to go on.  God doesn’t expect you to do anything all by yourself.  It is through him that you live, move and breathe.

You may be tired of struggling, but hang on in there because God has the strength you need.  Don’t let the enemy defeat you!  Truth is your struggle will make you stronger.

God is our refuge and strength an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:10

Everyday is a new day to begin again.  Your life begins today……………


Believe that God will give you strength


Think about your struggles. What makes this struggle so hard? What can you do about it?  What or who would make it easier for you to bear? How can you make the struggle less stressful?


Write in your journal your thoughts. Make an action plan. The power is in you!


Monique Ray

Christian Life Coach



Life can be an adventure and when that happens, we get caught up in it!  We run, run, and run, never slowing down to recognize that we got to much going on. We feel like the more we do, the more we are accomplishing. Better yet the more we do for others, the more we want to please others by keeping them satisfied. The truth of the matter is, the more you do, the more you are going to try to do and nothing you want to do is being accomplished.   Don’t get me wrong, doing is not the problem. It’s how much of what you are doing is necessary and is it bringing God the glory?

Doing to much can take you off course and take you away from your purpose in life.

Let’s keep it simple by doing some simple addition and subtraction.  Let’s add the things we need to accomplish and subtract the things that are of less importance.

Life can be more fulfilling when we commit ourselves to what’s important. Not the twenty things we might have going on that are not.. Simplify your life and focus on your goals.

Let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith Hebrews 12:1-2


Look at your present life and determine what’s important.


Is your every act necessary ?

Is your every act pleasing to God?

Are you trying to rack up points in heaven by doing?

Is too much getting in the way?

Are you keeping it simple and relying on God?


Make a list of the necessities and a list of your desires.

Which one of these is keeping you from your goals?


Monique Ray

Christian Life Coach


Perception-Who do you think you are?


How do you perceive yourself? Do you think the best of yourself? Or less of yourself? Do you talk yourself down or talk yourself up? Perception is our way of looking ourselves and at others. It is our way of understanding who we are and what we believe others to be. Based on our perception of ourselves and others, we make assumptions.  And those assumptions cause us to create a belief system about ourselves and others. This thought of perception leads us into a permanent way of believing. This belief system can make or break you. Why? The more you think yourself into how you perceive yourself, you become what you believe.

For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he Proverbs 23:7

It’s like the old saying “you are what you eat”. This is true because what you eat shows in your physical being.  Your perception is the same way. You are what you believe you are.

Maybe you have thought less of yourself? Maybe you have even compared yourself to others. Whatever the case may be, you have a choice to change your belief system.  Start today. Every day is a new day to begin again. Your life begins today…………………..


The person you want to be and start thinking that way


The misconceptions you may have about yourself.

The misconceptions you may have about others.


In your journal time this week, write down your perceptions and misconceptions.

What can you do to change your thought?

What steps will you take to make these changes?

How will you know your perception has changed?


Monique Ray

Christian Life Coach

You are deserving!!!


The word deserve is such a small word, but more powerful in its essence. It means to be worthy of. Many times we are reluctant to accept things from others because we don’t believe we should, or because we don’t believe we deserve to. We even go to the extent of feeling bad about accepting things from others. We even try to have a false humility about it. It is this type of thinking that causes us to not receive everything that God desires us to have. Christ died on the cross for us when we were undeserving. We were undeserving of his love and undeserving of his sacrifice. However, it is this love that allows us to be able to accept from others what he desires us to have. Christ died so that you could have life and have it more abundantly. As a result, God uses his people to bless others. But we must be willing to accept the gifts that he offers us. We will never be able to repay Christ for his sacrifice, but we can love him for it and accept the gift he has given us. The way we show our love to him is by accepting his love from the cross. How he chooses to do that, is totally out of your control! The enemy may have tried to make you think that because of your past mistakes you are undeserving or your past indiscretions that you are undeserving of anything. But this is a lie! God wants you to have all your heart desires and even more. So how do I receive this blessing? By believing that you are deserving

You were dead in sins, and your sinful desires were not yet cut away. Then he gave you a share in the very life of Christ, for he forgave all your sins. Colossians 2:13


What you believe you deserve. What does it look like? Can you see yourself with it?


What are the things you desire to have? What are you reluctant to accept? Why do you feel you are undeserving?


Write in your journal this week about the things you thought you were undeserving of. Then put a big X across that page and write the things you are deserving of. Think of it this way-old things are passed away, all things have become new. Believe!


Monique Ray

Christian Life Coach

What’s your attitude?

That’s what it’s about! We have all heard the saying “Your attitude will determine your altitude”. In other words, your attitude will determine how far and how high you will go.  One thing is for sure, the right attitude will take you a long way. I am reminded of Saul’s attitude toward Christians in the bible.  He literally crucified them. But when his attitude changed, so did his life.  His new attitude afforded him an opportunity to go farther in his journey in life. He learned his life’s purpose and began to evangelize for Christ. Not only did Saul’s life change but his status changed in the eyes of the people.  He was given a new name and a new identity.  When you have the right attitude your status among people will change too.

Your attitude about life can bring you good or it can bring you bad.  What do you want to come your way?  Joy, happiness, love, etc.  Whatever you want to receive, you must be willing to give. If you give an attitude, you will receive an attitude back, but if you give love, then you will receive love back.

What choice will you make today about your attitude? Are you going to let your attitude stop you from receiving your blessings?

And so, dear brothers, now we may walk right into the very Holy of Holies where God is, because of the blood of Jesus  Hebrew 10:19

Today is a new day to begin again.  Your life begins to………………….


The new you and what you want the new you to look like.


What is keeping you from having the right kind of attitude? People….

What can you do to change this?


Write in your journal this week

  1. What things, people or places that cause you to have the wrong attitude
  2. How this makes you feel.
  3. How can you change for the better
  4. What steps will you take to make it happen


Monique Ray

Christian Life Coach